Affirmation is the one technique that quite tricky for beginner like us so maybe we will be making a lot of mistakes at beginning. If you are new to LOA method, I hope this article can be guidance and understand why affirmation doesn't work.
If you already knew about LOA and ask "why affirmations have failed you”, I will write the reason why most affirmations fail. And I will write couple of easy tips how to make affirmations work for you. So keep on reading my friend.
Why Most Affirmations Fail
One answer is: YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF. Or to be exact you are feel that you are lying to yourself. Affirmation is about how those words make you feel in your heart.
When we learn LOA many people told you to make a very big goals, and then of course we will make bigger affirmation too. For example: I want to be wealthier than Warren Buffet and this will lead you to affirm like "I am wealthy". And then you remember about your debt or your mortgage, you will feel I’m not wealthy and what you feel is what you attract.
Affirmation like this is written as if you already become or achieved something and this is the biggest reason why affirmations have failed you. Every time you read your affirmation you will feel that it isn't true, and your subconscious will resist it. And it’s normal because you are not delusional. No matter how many times you do this and hoping that your subconscious will believe, it's still not good strategy.
And the second reason why this affirmation technique not works is: your affirmations are using passive language. Using the words that designed to make you feel good without doing anything and make empty promises of something you want. I think many gurus teach you to use this affirmation:
For example: "I am a money magnet. Money flows to me effortlessly and in abundance."
When you read this affirmation you will feel good in the moment, but it giving you a false sense of relief from the truth and surely this affirmation won't attract any income for you. If you just sit back and doing nothing and wait for money magically show up, I’m sure you will be poor. You need some action and affirmation will help you.
To generate wealth or financial abundance or great health and relationship, you need to action, you need to do something.
So how to make affirmations work for you?
These simple and tricky tips will help you to make your affirmation works. Only change a little word you can change from passive language to more active. So here the tricks:
You just need to add these words: choose, potential or willing. Only just add more words you will stating to feel your affirmation are true.
Okay it's easier if we use some example:
"I am wealthy" with this affirmation maybe you feel like you are lying to yourself, try change by add the words:
"I have the potential to be wealthy"
"I choose to be wealthy"
"I willing to be wealthy"
You will feel like you are capable to doing this and you are responsible to make this happen
When you repeatedly affirm yourself with those words you will be more committed to be wealthy and you will take all the necessary action until the result is achieved.
But I suggest you to make some smaller goal first but still challenge you and this goal would improve your life. You need to commit and you also need to remember WHY you need to achieve this goal, what benefits you will get to experience. Maybe you can say affirmation like: "I have the potential to have $5000 per month". Repeat this affirmation and your mind will start to give you way to achieve this goal. Don't worry you can make a bigger goals after you achieve your first goal. Easy, right? Just do it.
When Is the Best Time to Do Affirmation?
I think you can say it every time you remember but don't forget to do it every morning and every night before you sleep. If you do morning affirmation this strategically will engineered program your subconscious mind with beliefs and you will have mindset that you need to do anything necessary to achieve your desired goal. You will feel that you can do it and LOA surely will help you.
You need to remember to make your affirmations more effective you need to feel your emotion while you reciting them. Without emotion your benefits will be minimal. Feel your excitement and determination when you say your affirmation in your heart.
Use affirmation for your bigger goals
I'm sure if you follow this tips, you will grow, improve and evolve. And you need make bigger goals, now you can shape your reality.
Affirmations are works and scientifically proven if you done correctly. And this can be an effective tool for you to becoming the person you need to be, to achieve everything you want.
How to make affirmative sentence:
Create your own affirmations words and don’t make abstract statements
Create personalized affirmations for your particular needs and with your own language. Don't just copy from book or other people. Usually if you copy from book you will find meaningless words or unusual words and too abstract. “I love every cell of my body” or “I open my heart and sing the joys of love” hemm okay I don't think it will works for me.
Maybe you can create personalized affirmation like this: "I love my body and I listen to what my body really need for health and I act accordingly." One thing you need remember are what do you feel about your affirmations, if you feel nothing or worse, like suddenly lose energy or you just aren't connecting with it, just stop and create a new one.
Do you feel Resistance?
Don't make positive affirmations too far from reality it will make tension and you will feel like lying to yourself. It doesn't matter how great your statement sounds, because your emotions, your thought and subconscious mind will disapprove. And if you repeat this statements you will frustrated because it will never happen.
Create affirmations that within your reason. If you are currently earn $40.000 per year, please don't make statement like "I am a millionaire" your subconscious mind will find it silly and not believe it. Maybe you can affirm like "I earn $80.000 per year" or if that still sounds hard you can affirm "I earn 60.000 per year". When you find your earning getting better and better, now it's the time for you to make a bigger goals.
Another solution you can create statements like this “I earn more and more money, my financial is constantly increasing”. But I personally like solution number one because it give exact number and I know I can achieve it, and my believe will grow stronger and stronger. Choose whatever works for you.
Don't Fighting Against the Law of Nature
If you (man) have been bald for a long time and you make affirmation “I have natural thick hair again" and you say this affirmation, I believe how many time you repeat this, it wouldn't work. You just can’t beat the law of nature.
But don't worries there are many bald people who attractive, you can start make affirmation to have a good body & successful life or career, women will find you hot and attractive believe me (just count how many movie stars that bald and still make women crazy).
Now taking action
You need supported your daily affirmation with actions. After repeat your affirmation couple of time you will know what you need to do, what steps you must take. And don't forget to add “easily and effortlessly” in your affirmative sentence. It'll make your steps easier and more obvious.